Lately I have been thinking... a LOT! You see, I haven't been slacking on the blog, instead I've been avoiding it. I love this blog, and this blog has brought about a lot of encouragement for myself, but also to our readers. Our adoption stirred some hearts and we received many emails from some readers who has pushed away at the thought of starting their own journey... but after reading ours... decided to follow the path God was pulling them down. We've received countless emails of awesome praises and encouragement. And THIS encourages me. However, we've also received a lot of emails lately with discouraging words and inappropriate questions. Although we're VERY open about our adoption, and especially our journey, there are quite a few things that we believe should be left to our daughter. After all.... this is about her... this journey is hers, and her story is hers to have to tell when she is ready to.
I understand that the lack of knowledge and even the understanding of adoption is misconstrued. Its sad, but so many think they understand adoption - but they don't. My opinion and belief on the matter is that unless you've walked this same path - you don't understand. My wish however, with this blog, has been to encourage and to educate those. Unfortunately, I feel as though I'm failing.
The emails we've received have asked a lot of personal questions. Questions about her birthmother, personal situations within the adoption (which some we share, others are NOT relevant), as well as questions on race. Although we're not ashamed about any of the above, we do NOT feel as though any of that is relevant. We're very passionate, and hope to adopt again in the future. Our hopes are also to continue spreading the word about God's love for the orphans, and our own personal calling. We also want to continue to educate people on adoption. Teach them what is hurtful to most, what is inappropriate, and what the process is like (at least for domestic adoption). Right now though, I am taking a break from the emails. I am not upset, because I knew going into this that questions who arise & rude comments would be made (and will continue to be made). Now I am simply at a place where I am trying to figure things out and what direction I want to take the blog.
Sorry for the lack of updates... we will hopefully get caught up on some pics from this last month soon!
Until then... Brantley